Good Grief

Well, I don’t have any words of wisdom for this post, just honesty. This is the first Easter and summer that none of my kids will be coming home for vacation. One is graduated from college, one is nearly graduated, and one is hankering for an on campus job for the summer, so she can hang with her homies in So Cal. Can I just say this stinks?

Just when I think I’ve arrived and I’m handling the whole empty nest thing. Wham! It’s like another stage of grief all over again. All I want to know is, does it ever end?

I guess I need to get a life. Either that or my husband and I need to plan to take a cruise over Spring Break, like in the movie, Christmas with the Kranks. Hopefully, I won’t whack my head on a tanning bed, OR awkwardly bump into my pastor just outside the tanning salon in a bikini…(me in the bikini, of course, not my pastor) OR get a phone call from my daughter to announce that she’s getting married to Enrique, because she doesn’t even know an Enrique and if she did, he might take her away to Spain and then I’d have to deal with a whole other stage of loss and grief, and then I’d REALLY need a cruise.

It’s a slippery slope, I tell you. Did I ever mention that I have a dark side? I guess the secret’s out. I hope that doesn’t scare off all my karenpickrell.com fans. Thank goodness, there are only two of you out there, and you love me anyway…neurosis and all. Actually, I’ve been told that’s part of my charm and it’s definitely Karen in real life…totally uncensored. Lucky you. 😉

P.S. Truth is stranger than fiction! My daughter, Laura, actually did meet Lucas, a Brazilian citizen, while she was traveling in London. They are celebrating their first wedding anniversary today. Thank goodness, he just got his green card, so she doesn’t have to move to the UK. I thought this was the perfect day to feature this old blog post.

Happy Anniversary, Laura and Lucas! So glad we get to keep you!

 

Lost in Translation

Having trouble connecting with your child? Maybe you’re not speaking their love language. Why not take Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages assessment to find out how you and your child give and receive love?

The 5 Love Languages are…

  • Acts of Service
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Gift Giving
  • Physical Touch

My love language is acts of service, so I make my family work for it. 😉

Which love language is yours? Which love language is your child’s?

 

 

Coaching Tips for Parents

Parenting is one of the most challenging and rewarding jobs on the planet, but it doesn’t come with a manual. I’ve read tons of parenting books, solicited my fair share of advice from successful parents, attended parenting classes, like Nurtured Heart, and listened to Love and Logic DVDs. I’m not too proud to have paid good money (and well spent, might I add) for a life coach during rough patches.

Recently, I’ve been on the other side of the coaching conversation as a new teacher coach. It turns out; the same coaching questions that empower beginning teachers to thrive in the classroom are the same questions that can inspire your adult child to reach their full potential. These coaching techniques are so life changing; I just had to share them with you. It would be just plain selfish not to. Stay tuned for excepts from my upcoming parenting book, 10 Tips to Coach Your Young Adult Child for Success.